GUEST BLOGGER: Not everyone will want you to SUCCEED By Vanessa Dewsbury

We all hope for support and encouragement from our friends and family when we venture off on a journey of turning our dreams into reality, but the unfortunate truth is, not everyone will want you to succeed…and why is that?

There are some people who are triggered by the success of others because it makes them question their own life.  When someone sees you where they want to be or where they think they “should be,” it can create feelings of jealousy and resentment, and some people operate in competitive or comparative mode.  They either view you as competition so they are not supportive of your success or they compare themselves to others and if they perceive you are “doing better” than they are, they lack offering you any kind of encouragement.  And some of your friends or family don’t want you to succeed because they fear you may drastically change and leave them behind.

You may even find and have personally experienced someone trying to taint your character and reputation to others.  They talk bad about you behind your back in hopes that others will view you in a negative light.  However, usually in that situation it only makes the person who spoke badly of you, look bad.

Entrepreneurs are naturally driven, creative, rebellious and they tend to not like to follow the rules, or the crowds and this can actually be very off-putting for some.  If one is conditioned to believe that you have to do things by the book, then they will have a hard time accepting your choices and may view you as doing it all ‘wrong.’

But the thing is, we are all on our own journey of truth, growth, self development, and most everyone desires successful relationships, careers, health and so on but not everyone will arrive there at the same time.  We are all on different parts of the path just trying to do the best we can and maybe we will all arrive to where we want to be or maybe not all of us will.

How do you find you respond when you hear about the success of others?  Do you feel happy for them, do you encourage and congratulate them or do you feel resentful, jealous or hostile?

If you find your reaction is negative in nature, ask yourself why you’re feeling this way, explore your thoughts because deep down, they have nothing really to do with the other person, your reaction is coming from a place that might need a little bit of self reflection and healing.   And that’s okay, acknowledging and taking responsibility for your feelings can be the key to your own success.  If you find you are having difficulties in certain areas of your life, reach out and ask for help from others, surround yourself with the people you want to be like and most importantly, believe and trust in yourself that you can too achieve the success you desire.

If you are someone who praises, supports and gets excited when others succeed, then good for you, keep doing what you’re doing.

At the end of day we aren’t here to please others, we are here to enjoy, explore, create and live a life of happiness and bliss, and we are all worthy of that.  Don’t let the jealousy or non-approval of others deter you off your path, just keep moving, keep creating and keep believing in yourself, and in your dreams.

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.”

Steve Jobs



Vanessa Dewsbury
Facebook:  Soul Alive Barrie

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